Sexually abused as a child by her father, grandfather and Uncle, this woman hit crisis point as adolescence enveloped her. At this age, understanding of her abusive history is kicking in and self awareness brings much shame, doubt and self judgement. Acting out is normal for such teenagers, but significantly more for this individual than the average teenager. She became promiscuous and learnt to enjoy the mind numbing qualities of alcohol. However, blessed by a high degree of emotional intelligence, and perhaps some good fortune, she met a man, significantly older than her, who provided many qualities that stabilised and provided security. She married young, at just 21 years and raised a family of four. It wasn’t until her early to mid thirties that memories began to surface about her history of sexual abuse. Prior to this she had no memories of the sexual abuse. Her world then collapsed. Whilst her inner world was in absolute chaos, the marriage stood strong. This was a love match of strength and acceptance, prepared for the duration of challenges that included many suicide attempts. Reports were ultimately made to the police, and after many, many years of legal delays, changing legal representation and other complications, her day in court arrived in relation to her father. Torturous though it was, this woman drew on her growing emotional intelligence, the support of her marriage and her love of her children and ultimately read out her victim impact statement in court. She was blessed by a wonderful, female judge. Another gift from the universe, as some individuals have a different outcome, damaged by judges of poor understanding and even prejudice. The perpetrator received a nine year jail sentence. He remains in jail, as other victims came forward. However, there were many sacrifices along the way.